LesRonces wrote:aravinda wrote:
....The first response to, desitrader’s post starts with the words “ total nonsense”.....
I don't understand what people's problems with honesty is. Do we have to tiptoe around and put things nicely-nicey all the time ?
Why can't something which is total nonsense be called total nonsense any more ? Are we really that sensitive as a people ?
I for one refuse to apologise for it however blunt it may be perceived as.
If someone says it's impossible to run the 100m in less than 10 seconds i will call that total nonsense as well, because it is.
It is possible to disagree with someone without being rude or blunt. Yes, we do have to be nicely-nicey all the time because it is in the rules and because manners and courtesies, customs and conventions are there to make life more amenable and relationships more bearable in difficult times. At the very heart of good manners is consideration for others. Good manners are based on an authentic concern for the respect of others.
We should try to be gracious when someone could feel embarrassed by our statements. Graciousness is the art of being kind and gentle and since we're all here because we want to learn to speak with others, I think it would be a good idea to always try to be gracious and nice regardless if the conversation is in real-life, or online forums. There is an Irish saying; "Manners cost nothing".