Not all those who wander are lost

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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby sfuqua » Wed Nov 03, 2021 11:02 pm

All plans are out the window. My wife is back in the hospital. After her stent, everything was great for two weeks and then everything started to go wrong. We seem to have a good bunch of doctors, but it is scary. It is pretty much impossible for me to do FSI right now. One advantage of the anki decks for the Old English, Icelandic, and Irish is that they are easy to do in a hospital.
Just saying...
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荒海や佐渡によこたふ天の川

the rough sea / stretching out towards Sado / the Milky Way
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Sometimes Japanese is just too much...

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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby Xenops » Wed Nov 03, 2021 11:22 pm

I am sorry to read this. Prayers are sent on you guys' behalf.
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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby Le Baron » Wed Nov 03, 2021 11:30 pm

I suppose languages aren't that important right now. I hope everything runs smoothly. Fingers crossed.
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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby iguanamon » Thu Nov 04, 2021 12:09 am

Sorry to hear this. Hope all goes well.
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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby luke » Thu Nov 04, 2021 12:15 am

Your princess knows you love her and that surely gives her some comfort.
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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby Caromarlyse » Thu Nov 04, 2021 10:23 am

Sorry to hear that - I know how stressful it is when a loved one is in hospital. I hope the doctors help, and wish you all the best in this difficult time.
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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby Teango » Thu Nov 04, 2021 7:55 pm

So sorry to hear this, brother. My family is keeping your wife in our thoughts and prayers. Stay strong!
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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby sfuqua » Fri Nov 05, 2021 4:59 am

Well, she seems to be coming out of it. The problem is that there has been some damage to her heart that is permanent. It is completely unclear right now how bad it is and whether this will stop her from working. Before you think that I am a creep for wondering about her work future, remember that I live in the US, where your health insurance comes from your job. She is the one who provides health insurance for herself and our daughter. If you get too sick to work, you drop out of the system without health insurance, just at the time you need it. There are expensive alternatives. The hospital room she is in tonight costs over $20,000 a day. She may need it again. I have my own health issues that may put me into the hospital again, someday. Heck I'm 68.

Maybe I can go back to work to get health insurance for my family. This country's health care system is cruel and stupid.

Hopefully her recovery will go well, and she will be able to stay employed until my daughter gets through high school in a few more years, but this could turn into a financial disaster. We have some resources, but this is frightening.


Financial problems or not, she seems better tonight, and may come back from this strong. That is the important thing. She has a lot of living she wants to do.

Well, languages. I'm just doing Assimil Spanish. It is easy and I will learn some things when we get a little further along. I've also been reading El Pais.
I'm only studying languages to stay a little bit sane.
I'm just trying to get through the day.
Getting through the day will be enough.
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荒海や佐渡によこたふ天の川

the rough sea / stretching out towards Sado / the Milky Way
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Sometimes Japanese is just too much...

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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby sfuqua » Mon Nov 08, 2021 5:00 pm

Well, she's home. She's wounded, but she's very brave. I'm quite hopeful. There may not be significant permanent damage. I think she will make a pretty complete recovery.
We experienced quite a bit of frustration with doctors dismissing and misdiagnosing her complaints over the years. I think we finally have gotten a correct diagnosis.
I know everybody knows this, but let me repeat. Women often experience pain from their heart as stomach pain. Doctors know this, but they seemed to forget this for about two years with my wife. Even after her stent, as her heart pain returned, they kept telling her that the pain that started up again "couldn't be her heart." It wasn't typical for heart pain. Very frustrating. Also, even after a successful stent or other revascularization, it is still possible to have further heart problems. We kept getting the whole, "you're fixed, now go away" attitude. Another frustration was that it seemed that none of her specialists were reading her whole medical history. We had a cardiologist cause liver damage by prescribing the wrong medicine, and insisting that she was right, even when we pointed out that there was a possible problem with her prescription. I don't know how many gastroenterologists suggested over the years that her pain was psychological and that she needed antidepressants and antianxiety medicine. Those medications didn't help and they caused bad side effects. She was viewed as noncooperative when she declined to try yet another one of the medicines that weren't helping and which were making her sicker.
Modern medicine was great, once they got the diagnosis right. They never would have if we had not kept pushing and arguing. We intend to push and argue with physicians for the rest of our lives. I know that we are not qualified to analyze medical issues, but we are qualified to know when we hurt, and when they need to try something else. I remember bringing up to one physician about 18 months ago, "Might this be heart related? Her pain started when she was climbing stairs." I got an eye roll for my trouble.
I think doctors need help trying to figure out what is going on, and just like everybody else, sometimes they hold on to an incorrect theory long after reason would say they should give it up.

Oh, I am in my usual wanderer state with languages. I have been working on the old "whale road" set of languages for the last couple of days. It gives me a sense of security and of coming home. Also, just studying with anki is very convenient. I had a huge backlog of cards after a month away. I cleaned up the backlog in Old English and Norse easily and both of the languages seem to be pretty intact. Irish was something else. There are two main ways of conjugating verbs in Irish, one the way that the government teaches in school and (at least) one that is used in some of the rural areas, used by actual native speakers. The official school taught version of Irish is sort of a conlang made up from features from the dialects in the provinces. When I drifted away from the Whale Road a month ago, I was in the point of "adding" the provincial system of conjugation to the official government version. I was in sort of a confused state between them.
After a month off, my Irish verbs are a mess. I am having trouble cleaning up the backlog of cards, since I keep getting them wrong. I am determined not to reset the deck since I recently reset my Irish deck when I lost all of my clean backups, and I don't want to go back there.

Not that I'm doing anything except roaming on the whale road... If I could just plug away at these decks for about 3 years, I should be at a pretty solid place for doing extensive reading in Irish and Icelandic, and I should be about ready to read Beowulf.
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荒海や佐渡によこたふ天の川

the rough sea / stretching out towards Sado / the Milky Way
Basho[1689]

Sometimes Japanese is just too much...

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Re: Not all those who wander are lost

Postby Ogrim » Mon Nov 08, 2021 5:22 pm

Here's hoping both you and your wife will be all right. I won't discuss health care policies, but I am glad I live in a country where you get treated for illness no matter how wealthy or poor you are.

Stay strong - thinking about you.
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