smallwhite wrote:PeterMollenburg wrote:What I don't appreciate is your succinct seemingly arrogant comments that largely appear devoid of compassion.
Indeed it didn't occur to me that I should show compassion. I was trying to put in personal experience, points of views and advice, and I thought that was appropriate.
My first message was originally a bit longer, but then I realised that there was really just 1 message I wanted to convey - don't change jobs. Because changing jobs won't make you happier, because your problem is not with your job, because the problems you state are just secondary, because of reasons I can't really grasp and elaborate on. I'm not you so I can't tell exactly where your problem is. I just feel, and want to tell you, that your problem is not your job.
The rest of what I later wrote boils down to 比上不足比下有餘 (lacking when compared to those above, and comfortable compared to those below) (ie. there are people better, there are people worse) and 你睇人好人睇你好 (when you look at other people, you feel that they are better; when other people look at you, they feel you are better).
> You've done it all so I can too. I don't think you realise how you're coming off in your words.
Indeed I don't see what's wrong with saying "I can and so can you". It suggests that I think you are either equal to or more able than I am.
You are indeed a different individual smallwhite. What I really like in your response is you keep your composure despite my strong critical reply at times.
You are dead on with humans comparing to other humans, but as long as the enticement of a better life exists i am more than likely to want it (better does not necessarily mean more material wealth), and one would hope if it didnt exist i'd search anyway, provided there remained room for improvement. Can i find contentment is the ultimate question. The thing is i largely see a lot of the mess humanity and nature are in is the result of going along with the status quo- there are better ways- better for the earth and human beings as a whole as well as individuals.
I don't want to settle in a job i see as providing solutions to problems that are not designed to get to the source of the health issues and certainly not with preventative natural medecine.
I believe people are born equal but personalities and experiences change that 'original template' which means some people wind up being much more equipped than others at carrying out a given task.
I'm well aware of happiness being a state of mind/being and i'm not the kind of person to say "I will be happy when..." But if changing my career or location or both aids in fullfilling some large personal goals then I don't see the problem.
Now given your lead I will ask, in your opinion what do you think my problem is?