Bones wrote:I might have a trip to France coming up next year
. If it gets confirmed, I'm going to make French my dabble language after the third semester of Russian is over. I would be aiming to reach a basic touristic level before the trip, so I could try it out on the locals to see if they are more willing to talk to me in the language than the people were in Spain when I was there last year. I literally had more German spoken to me by a Lufthansa flight crew than Spanish by the locals on Spanish soil
. Yeah, I should have probably gone to a less touristic area, tried to dress like a local and travel alone, if I wanted to be spoken to in Spanish, but still the experience ended up greatly diminishing my motivation to get back into the language. I don't even mind getting switched on that much, but when everybody immediately initiates the conversation in English, it makes me fell like a clear outsider, just another run of the mill tourist.
I'm sending a hug as I know this too well!
Edit: I take the hug back, I've heard the fins are not much like this. So, I am waving compassionately from a comfortable distance instead
A part of the "looking like a native" is definitely useful. It is easier, as natives in various countries dress similarly, so just get rid of the obvious tourist attributes (guess how difficult I have it, since my dad always travels with a huge camera and a bag full of photo proprieties
)But some things are not changeable. I would never look like a native in the northern countries but I look not strikingly anormal in majority of Europe. It helps. In Spain, I got it much easier even with highly imperfect Spanish than a beautiful tall blonde friend of mine with blue eyes. Had she looked either more neutrally like me, or asian, she would have gotten more practice. She wasn't much worse at Spanish then me, that was not the main problem. This is often not easy to swallow and we should not beat ourselves too much over this.
Less touristic areas are cool but it is not just about smaller towns or less known monuments. I can't recommend enough getting to a non-touristic situations. They offer two benefits: better chances of language practice and getting to know more about the contemporary life in the country. Whenever I am abroad and have the time, I make sure to visit a local café in a definitely non touristy neighbourhood, a bookstore and/or a library (it is interesting to observe how does the "bestseller shelf" change between countries), a supermarket or preferably smaller shops with food, I use the public transport. I plan to start making bigger space in my budget to go for non-touristy cultural events too. The museums are filled with tourists, but a local cinema or theatre, that is different.
Don't let anything discourage you too much. Be a Grumpy Cat, if it helps: "People are boring and horrible anyways."