Looking at eBay prices lately, I was surprised to find this under $100.00 Though I admit I have to use Google Translate, as my French isn’t amazing. I guess this is an excuse to work on French as well.
Some other news: I am moving into a studio on June first! This is the first time since I’ve lived in Boston that I could afford to live without roommates—just barely. It is down the hill from my work, so the commute is still under 20 minutes. I am so excited: I’ve had instances where I had excellent roommates, but most of the time the experiences range to tolerable to uncomfortable. My current roommate situation isn’t fun, and I’m so excited to leave her—as bad as it sounds. But then again, as couples do premarital counseling before living together, I guess it makes sense that it’s so hard to find compatible roommates?
For less happy news, I’ve had some recent discoveries about my mental health. While my mental healing is continuing in leaps and bounds, I’ve researched more into neurodiversity...And I think I’m more neurodiverse than I thought. Yes I’ve suffered from depression—that’s not new. I had heard of Highly Sensitive Persons, and before I didn’t think I was one of them because I’m not bothered by textures (I love my pea coats for example). However, these traits describe me very well:
- Being very susceptible to other people’s feelings.
Easily get overwhelmed by sensory stimuli and stressful social situations.
I need down-time and alone-time to recuperate.
Music has a strong impact on me emotionally. I noticed that I tend to prefer anime/game soundtracks to classical music, and I think it’s because the mood is constant. With classical music, it feels like an emotional rollercoaster that’s manipulating my mind.
On a similar note, I think I’m more impressionable to beautiful things than most people.
And lately I’m wondering if I’m high autistic. I have not been formally diagnosed. But possibly instead, as this dialogue illustrates:
Me: I wonder if I am high autistic—some social things don’t make sense to me.
Coworker: That’s possible—we are all on a spectrum.
Me:...Or I wonder if it’s because I was homeschooled for 9 years.
Coworker: Now that’s probably why.
To be fair, I think homeschool programs (especially today) could produce healthy, balanced students. In my case, my homeschooling (and childhood) was far from ideal and it was isolating.
Some high autistic features I think I have:
- See things as black and white-out
Am oblivious to some social cues. I’ve told some people, “treat me like a guy and tell me what you mean”.
In my childhood state of Idaho and the South, people have a fake politeness and sugar-coating that I can barely emulate. That’s why I found Boston such a relief: people are blunt.
In this self-diagnosis, part of me feels relief, and part of me feels disappointment. I’ve wondered why I’m almost 36 and only starting to feel comfortable navigating social situations. Granted, I’m pretty sure my dad is high autistic, and my mom was passive about my social training, so I feel like I’m learning how to be a member of society on my own.
So I feel relief, because I realize that maybe situations in the past weren’t my fault. Conversely, I wonder “if I’m autistic...Am I worthy to attempt higher education or other goals? Will society despise me for trying?” I realize too, that if I have such thoughts, it could be because I have a bias against people with high autism, and that I need to work through that.