WalkingAlone13 wrote:I do not mean to be a party pooper, and I feel like a meanie for saying this, because for all I know the 50/50 may well become a reality in your case. However, from personal experience this really will not happen unless you absolutely force it to happen. I ended up speaking Finnish with the entire family (bar those I had to use Swedish with) with the only exception being my fiance. It got to the point where the rest of the family assumed we were being rude, until I pointed out that if I spoke Finnish with her, she would switch to English. Once this has established itself, you get the "excuse" for the rest of your days that, hey, we started off speaking in this language, it feels weird to speak anything but it with you, even though we can both speak x language.
I say excuse "excuse" as I see this a lot, however one of my friends whom I met several years before I even started learning German and therefore only ever spoke English with, speaks perfectly fine in German with me. In fact, we only speak German now. There is, of course, the odd occasion, where she might start a conversation in English, but as soon as I reply in German the rest will continue in German.
So, basically, my rather overdrawn point was, if it is indeed your wish to converse 50/50, I would try to establish this as soon as humanly possibly. It may well dispel disappointment further along.
Great job on the supermarket, by the way. I actually find the supermarket one of the most enjoyable places to practice conversing as there are ample opportunities to do so, plus it just seems intrinsically fun for some reason. I wish you all the best and look forward to reading more about your adventures as always!
No worries, you make a very valid point! It's almost impossible to get my German friend to speak German with me for such a reason (we actually started our friendship in French, but quickly switched over to English my fault!) So your concern isn't lost or wasted on me.
But that isn't a problem with my boyfriend. He is incredibly happy that I am learning Swedish, and even happier when I speak it with him. He doesn't switch to English unless he is having trouble explaining something, or unless I am having trouble understanding a Swedish explanation. I am the person who switches most! So you are right that I will have to force it - but the person I will need to convince is myself! If it were up to my boyfriend, the percentage of Swedish to English would probably even be higher!
(He was trying to incite me to write recipes in Swedish the other day. I told him point blank that it won't happen.)