Cainntear wrote:luke wrote:If I don't want to be rude, sometimes I go over-formal.
I used to do the same, and still do to an extent.
But when I started studying language, I discovered that formal language is actually very rude, because it implies social distance, and the rule I was told about "speaking politely" was utterly back-to-front.
Q. What's the rudest word in the English language?
A. Pardon. You can tell someone to f*ck off with a friendly smile on your face, but "pardon...?" is always said aggressively. And yet we're taught it's polite. That's one hell of a fallacy right there!!!
to be honest,
I felt myself very surprised to see this comment. Yes, interesting.
because I enjoy formal language and also acts.
I can assume that if you or someone use that tone of tongue on my official work environment, well , punches and kicks will talk.
I discovered that formal language is actually very rude, because it implies social distance
social distance is good for me. I sometimes think I can set that distance even by the tone of my voice. anyway, I think this idea's status (i.e. good , bad ,neutral) can vary by one to another one.