coralsea wrote:I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I like to learn languages. I like to learn them. I like unveiling the mysteries. But it is also true that learning is not paying my bills, though I have no intention of forcing it to do so. Even in my native tongue I am not a conversationalist, easy to open up, the first to speak, as I am more prone to listen. I find polyglots usually become a sort of teacher or translator eventually - or that's where they intended to go in the first place.
Does anyone else struggle with this? I have no end goal and I think that's where the shame creeps in. If you have or had these same feelings, how do you or how have you overcome them?
From what you write it is not clear to me whether you are a full-time student of languages or you are just studying in your free time, whether you have a job or not. Whatever your situation I wanted to share my story:
I discovered that I loved languages when I was still in school as a teenager. So when the time came to decide on my university studies, I was gently nudged by my parents to study law. I started on law studies but quit after a couple of months to concentrate fully on Spanish. My family thought I had made a very bad choice, as I would probably end up as a low-paid school teacher instead of a successful lawyer. I stood my ground and I ended up with a Masters degree in Comparative Romance Philology, and my aim was to get a PhD and become a university professor.
However, life took a course of its own and I ended up with a career working for international organisations, not as a linguist but as a Human Resources specialist. Today my languages is a hobby (admittedly a very important one), but they have also allowed me to work internationally and live in five different countries.
Of course I had doubts when I decided to leave law studies and spend all my time on languages. I would not say I felt shame, but I did disappoint my parents initially and that is difficult when you now they have high hopes for you. However one thing I have learnt in my profession is that you should never choose a line of study or a career to satisfy someone else's ambitions.
I don't know what else interests you in life, but you say you feel shame because you have no end goal. Maybe you need to find out for yourselves what is really important to you and at least have some idea of where you want to go. In HR we talk a lot nowadays about "potential" and "motivation" as key factors for success. What motivates you? In what field of work do you think you have potential to grow and develop? Would you like to work as a translator or interpreter? Would you be comfortable teaching languages to others? Or is there some other area of life you would like to explore and other subjects you would be motivated to study with a view to a career?
The point is, in the end only you can know what is important to you and what can make you happy.